Be Kind to Yourself

I recently read a study that suggested that people respond better to correction and instruction when they are praised for what they are doing correctly. In fact, the ratio of effective correction (praise to criticism) is 5:1. In counseling there is something called a strength-based approach. The central strategy of this technique is to focus on what is going right in the client's life. With this idea in mind, you're able to look at past and present successes and use those to address current challenges. If you're someone in leadership (and we are all leaders in some area of our lives) this is invaluable information. It suggests a way in which to increase the performance, integrity, and confidence of the people you are leading.

At the core of who we are, we want to be loved. Oftentimes we'll extend infinitely more grace to others than we will to ourselves. I know that there are times when I have encouraged others but simultaneously berated for myself for not getting it right. I've decided to change that! I am making a decision to be kind to myself and to celebrate the little successes, and I encourage you to do the same. Failure is a part of life; it is a part of the learning process. A lot of people fall down and automatically assume that they are back to square one. That is a lie! When you experience failure, you are armed with more strength, knowledge, and power than you had the last time you tried! Get up with the grace that God has gifted you, and try again.

You are going to make it to your next level. Give yourself props on the way up!

xo

Amaris